Monday, February 27, 2012

Failure by Design

The Oscar season is over, and though predictable, the results still made me go "Whaa--?"  It's as though I wanted a surprise and expected a surprised, but instead I received what I knew was coming all along.

It's the same way with a Christmas present: you know exactly what your parents got you but something keeps nudging at you -- a pursuasive gut feeling that raises your expectations and says "but what if..."  And though this thought process leads directly to disappointment, it's impossible to let go. And despite everything, you convince yourself to believe.

Last year I was appalled that The Social Network did not win the Oscar for best motion picture.  I was appalled despite all the signs that said "The King's Speech was made for the Oscars."  "The King's Speech is the type of movie Oscars voters love." "The King's Speech is going to win."

I saw the signs but wanted to be proven wrong.

I often set myself up for disaster.  I often build boats I know will sink, and planes I know won't fly.  By chance will things work out? If we put in a little more effort will it make it through? It's okay to have a little hope, is it not?

In the end I'm always a little shocked and disoriented. I predicted a fastball when I knew The Artist was a curve ball that everyone saw coming. When you create hopeful expectations, you allow for doubt and disappointed. But in the end I'm always a little more disappointed than how I expected to feel when I knowly stopped following the signs.